Getting divorced or separated is something that most of us didn't expect would happen when we first fell in love, got married or had kids!
And yet, chances are you have landed on this site because you have either contemplated getting a divorce or are in the process of getting divorced.
Which brings us back to the idea of joy.
You are probably on this site because you want to know how to navigate the often confusing and contradictory messages from friends, family, and social media.
And, although your marriage is likely coming to an end, chances are that you don't want to be in a high-conflict situation. I am pretty sure I can guarantee that you want it to be as smooth as possible, with a peaceful resolution that is a win for everyone involved including your children, extended family, pets, and maybe even your soon to be ex-spouse.
That would be a joyful outcome.
Unfortunately, of course, the journey of getting divorced isn't always a pleasant process. But at the end, if you and everyone else feel that they have opened a new door from which a new experience of life can develop, there is plenty of room for joy.
Hello, I am Val Hemminger, a Divorce Lawyer based in British Columbia, Canada and creator of the Better Divorce Project. I have been in practice for over 25 years, representing thousands of families.
I obviously can't guarantee there won't be problems in your separation and divorce journey. You may even have big bumps along the way. However, I created this, the Better Divorce Project, because a significant problem for many people getting divorced is that they get caught up in costly misinformation which makes those bumps significantly worse.
The sad truth is that just about no-one is prepared for divorce. This means that you do not know what you do not know and as a result you can be easily influenced by emotional arguments, an influencer on social media, an emotional family member or friend or even worse, a lawyer whose favoured sport is litigation.
Although family laws are designed to support you, it is possible that you will find yourself in uncharted territory. As a result, you need to protect yourself with quality information.
Unfortunately, parts of the family law industry are toxic and most people don't realize how broken it is. Don't let you and your changing family get swept up into its clutches.
You may even have heard horror stories from a friend or family member who has gone through the divorce process from hell. Believe me, in my 25+ years I have seen plenty of examples of these and it's not pretty.
Don't let this be you:
Even if you think you are heading for a high-conflict divorce, there are immediate strategies that you can use to reduce the drama and get you to a resolution. It may not seem like it now, but your future is closer than you think.
You will be able to get on with your life, health, well-being and happiness, not only for you but for your children and any other connected loved ones.
The Better Divorce Project provides strategies for you, your family, (and finances) by tapping into a unique and fresh approach to your divorce and separation.
The Better Divorce Project is where you will find tips, resources, and strategies to save you and your kids from unnecessary emotional turmoil and stress.
At The Better Divorce Project, we
There is a better way to get a divorce!
Because many divorce lawyers are unskilled in alternative dispute resolution methods, it means that your divorce lawyer can make things worse for you and your kids rather than better. A separating or divorcing family does not need gasoline thrown on the fire of what are already stressful circumstances.
Stick around and you will discover:
Wherever you are in your journey, your goal is this: To have a clear and legally binding final separation agreement.
Using this site, you will find answers to your questions such as:
. . . the list goes on and on and on . . .
Utilizing The BETTER Divorce Project allows you to keep more of your hard-earned financial and emotional resources for you and your family rather than lining the pockets of your divorce lawyer.